6 THINGS TO TALK ABOUT ON YOUR FIRST DATE
Dating isn’t always easy, especially if you’re just getting out there into the world of relationships, romance, and dating for the first time. If you want to be on your A-game with your first date conversation, you’ll need to strike the right balance between being interesting enough to hold your date’s attention but not so interesting that you scare him or her away! Use these six tips to make sure your next first date goes well.
1) Your Childhood
If your date is speaking about his or her childhood, let them share. While you don’t want to interrupt or stop them in their tracks, if it’s not something they bring up naturally, feel free to say: You don’t hear people talk about that much. Tell me more! Or, maybe I can tell you a story from my own childhood. It may be a good way to break down barriers and help both of you get comfortable with each other.
2) Mutual Friends
If you’re both too nervous to start a conversation, try asking about one of your mutual friends. That way, you don’t have to talk about yourself (yet) and can use that person as a jumping-off point for future discussions. Just avoid bringing up any exes or other touchy subjects—better yet, get your date talking about his or her friends instead! Once you know each other a little better, it will be much easier for you two to open up.
3) Shallow Topics
You want to impress your date, but you don’t want to appear like you’re trying too hard. Discussing shallow topics is a great way of killing two birds with one stone. For example, commenting about how weird (or awesome) it is that you two actually live within walking distance of each other is an easy topic that can reveal a lot about both of you—and keep things light and conversation flowing.
4) Deep Topics
It’s very easy to get caught up in small talk when you’re trying to talk to someone you’re interested in—but asking about their hobbies and interests will make your conversation much more interesting. You don’t need to be looking for a life partner, after all; just get better acquainted with each other. If there is an underlying attraction, it will become obvious by what comes out of your mouth next.
5) Current Events
Although not as sexy as, say, what’s your favorite thing about me? Current events are great conversation starters. And whether you’re arguing over who might win an upcoming sporting event or revealing where you stand on some controversial legislation, first dates are a great time to learn about each other.
6) A Contestant from Survivor
Despite what mainstream culture might lead you to believe, there’s no need to drop your favorite topics from conversation on a first date. As long as you remember some of these simple pointers, you’ll be okay
The best way to avoid awkward silences is simply by knowing what not to talk about. Stay away from personal questions, political opinions, and anything pertaining to religion. Remember: you’re both here to get a feel for each other, so let it happen naturally. The last thing you want is for your date not be interested in seeing you again because of something you said or didn’t say. By sticking with these rules, we can guarantee your first date will be fun—and successful!